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34. Breaking Down Your Intrusive Thoughts

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Intrusive thoughts are an unwanted part of every relationship but they do need to be addressed when they come up. Avoiding them will only allow them to linger and get worse, possibly to the point of acting on them. In this episode, Alex and Jon answer listener questions about the need for prenups, dealing with insecurities about your partners past, setting boundaries with your aging parents, the negative impact of trauma dumping on a friend, and when a husband’s intrusive thoughts may lead to a scary reality.

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(0:00) Intro

(12:56) Is FOMO A Reason To Have A Child?

(17:55) Money And Prenups

(22:26) Your Insecurities Speak Volumes

(24:46) I Have The Perfect Partner But I Don’t Love Him

(28:58) What’s The Big Deal With Taking A Last Name Anyway?

(35:31) Setting Boundaries As Your Parents Caretaker

(38:48) Trauma Dumping And How That Can Impact Your Friends

(42:12) Comparison Will Only Hurt Your Relationship

(45:17) When Your Intrusive Thoughts Almost Become Reality

(50:32) Body Image Issues Are A Real Thing

(57:34) No Invites For The Black Sheep Of The Family

(1:01:53) Icks

(1:05:30) Listener Review

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33. The Complexities of Relationship Balance

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Relationships are a lot of work even when both partners are giving their all. So what happens to a relationship when one partner starts to give more than the other? In this episode, Jon and Alex give their mediocre advice about a boyfriend needing to choose between his parents and his girlfriend, what opinion you can have on your partner’s desire to get Botox, dealing with grief and financial instability, and whether or not you should ignore toxic behavior when it’s a family member.

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(0:00) Intro

(14:56) Is It Rude To Go Into A Store Right Before Closing Time?

(16:57) The Story You Tell Yourself Isn’t Always True

(19:19) You Are NOT The Father But I Told You Otherwise

(22:50) Do You Get An Opinion On Your Partner Wanting Botox?

(27:15) Will He Choose You Or His Parents?

(30:27) A Grieving Process And Your Financial Stability

(39:42) Can You Run Out Of Things To Talk About?

(43:22) Should You Ignore Toxic Behavior If They’re Family?

(47:45) Sometimes You Have To Know When To Call It Quits

(53:34) When The Relationship Becomes Too One Sided

(59:33) Icks

(1:03:41) Listener Review

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32. Dating, Divorce, and Disclosures

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Transparency, communication, and expectation setting are foundational to any successful relationship. So why do some many relationships fall apart as a result of ignoring their necessity? In this episode, Alex and Jon discuss navigating opposing religious views, choosing between your career and your partner, where do you draw the line when defending a family member, the unreasonableness of divorce, and the reality of living with an STI.

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(0:00) Intro

(11:14) Do You Charge Admission When Hosting Parties?

(15:03) Conflicting Religious Values

(18:33) Coming To Terms With Your Sexuality After The Wedding

(21:21) Choosing Between Who You Love And What You Love

(24:00) You Can’t Always Defend Your Family

(29:47) There’s Always Drama When You Brother And Bestie Date

(33:50) Divorce Is Rarely Reasonable

(39:07) My Sister Has Main Character Syndrome

(43:35) Long Term Care Planning For A Loved One

(46:46) The Heartbreaking Reality Of STIs

(52:38) Icks

(58:19) Listener Review

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31. The Best Intentions Aren’t Always The Right Priorities

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Establishing a relationship means changing your priorities from what’s best for you, to what’s best for us. The key to making these priorities work is knowing when to change them to meet the demands of your relationship. In this episode, Jon and Alex answer some juicy listener questions about a boyfriends secret gambling debt, getting over past trauma to save a relationship, the shocking truth behind an at-home DNA test, when a fathers apology isn’t enough, and what to  do when you lose your father in law’s ashes.

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(0:00) Intro

(17:22) The Stress Of Being Laid Off

(18:50) A Secret Gambling Debt

(23:13) Is It OK To Make Friends For Your Wife?

(24:55) How Do You Prioritize Quality Time With Your Partner?

(29:10) Is Past Trauma An Explanation Or An Excuse?

(34:28) Family Secrets Get Exposed With At-Home DNA Kits

(40:10) Asking For Too Much Or Deserving More

(46:48) You Can’t Take Back Words

(52:19) There’s 3 Options And They All Suck

(1:01:55) Icks

(1:06:30) Listener Review

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30. Past Lovers and Present Dilemmas

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Once you’re in a relationship, the decisions you make no longer only impact you but your partner as well.  The success of the relationship relies heavily on making good decisions for the team.  In this episode, Alex and Jon dish out mediocre advice on the impact of social media on parenting, when family businesses compete in a small town, an absentee father wanting back in, being friends with your spouse’s ex, and finding out your girlfriend slept with your brother.

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(0:00) Intro

(15:08) A Husband’s Road Rage

(18:44) When Should You Say I Love You?

(21:55) Are there rules for kids using social media?

(28:02) Competing Family Businesses

(30:20) Can You Lose The Right To Be In Your Kids Lives?

(34:28) Quit Drinking Or I’m Leaving

(37:58) Are You Holding Them Back?

(41:18) A Series Of Traumatic Events

(44:23) Opposing Parenting Styles

(48:59) Being Best Friends With Your Spouses Ex

(52:23) So You Slept With Your Boyfriends Brother

(57:14) Icks

(1:03:25) Listener Review

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29. Taking A Risk To Move Forward

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Moving forward in life isn’t always the easiest step to take, especially with the risks involved.  The uncertainty of what lies ahead can cause any person to question their next move.  In this episode, Jon and Alex answer listener questions about asking out a coworker, a boyfriend stealing his girlfriends dream job, what guys really mean in their text messages, and when your entire friend group turns a blind eye to a traumatic event.

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(0:00) Intro

(10:50) The Things You Say Matter

(12:50) Five Years Ended With A Phone Call

(15:43) Shoot Your Shot, Workplace Edition

(19:36) Every Fiancé Has That One Friend

(22:30) Boys Will Be Boys

(29:08) From Chasing Dreams To Stealing Dreams

(34:35) Never Been Kissed

(37:19) Best Friends To Lovers

(42:18) Is She The Right One For You?

(47:21) Balancing Med School And A Relationship

(52:09) Don’t Lower Your Standards For Bad Friends

(56:21)Icks

(1:00:21)Listener Review

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28. One For The Streets

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Why do people get into relationships when they’re not ready to be loyal? And why are those they cheat on oftentimes ready to give them second and third chances? In this episode, Alex and Jon discuss a cheating partner wanting to come home, how a wife plans to get back at the woman her husband cheated with, when being best friends with the opposite sex goes too far, and real expectations about those honeymoon stage feelings.

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(0:00) Intro

(13:32) Is there compromise when it comes to kinks?

(14:43) To pursue or not to pursue

(17:07) Getting healthier starts with taking that first step

(19:41) Clear your search history or don’t lie

(25:35) The grass isn’t always greener

(30:29) Taking back your cheating husband but make it petty

(32:34) Can you learn to trust again?

(35:07) Why does your boyfriend has sleepovers with his female best friend?

(38:19) You’ve found religion but your partner hasn’t

(45:09) The honeymoon stage won’t last forever

(49:44) Stuck in the gray area

(52:56) Icks

(57:10) Listener Review

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27. Betrayal Comes From Those You Least Expect

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Is it ever OK to keep secrets from your partner? Can you leave out specific details and still be telling the truth? In this episode, Jon and Alex get into topics about dealing with your family inviting your ex fiancé to family events, a husband who pleasures himself for hours a day, the reality of emotional cheating, ignoring your husband’s red flags, and a workplace secret that could shatter marriages and friendships.

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(0:00) Intro

(12:26) What is your post-sex routine?

(14:47) Is it OK to tell a total stranger they’ve got boogers in their nose?

(16:19) Yes, you’re the asshole

(18:39) Should your family be inviting your ex fiancé to family events?

(21:47) Your husband’s boss is cheating and the wife is your best friend, what do you do?

(28:14) My husbands plays with himself more than he plays with me

(34:24) Do you consider emotional cheating betrayal?

(37:14) I swear I’m only on Tinder to boost my low self-esteem

(41:31) The truth about adoption can change a family’s dynamic

(44:14) I think I have another sibling my dad never told me about

(47:37) If you’re committed to someone, stay out of the DMs

(52:51) Icks

(55:12) Listener Review

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26. Ex Marks The Spot

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What is it about past relationships that makes them so hard to let go of? Is there ever a time where it’s acceptable to stay in touch with your ex after you’ve moved on to a new relationship? In this episode, Alex and Jon answer listener questions about the cheating past of a woman’s late husband, giving up your best friend because your girlfriend doesn’t like that she’s a woman, finding out your spouse had a fling with a mutual friend, a cheating partner who can’t shake his old habits, and a twisted love triangle among friends.

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(00:00) Intro

(11:42) Is it wrong to fantasize about other people when you’re committed to someone?

(15:18) If you’re not fighting are you really even in a relationship?

(17:19) My late husband cheated on me and now I’m dating one of his friends

(19:50) Should you have to give up your best friend because your girlfriend doesn’t like that it’s a woman?

(22:11) What are the rules for attending an exes funeral?

(25:42) Would you be bothered if your spouse had a previous fling with someone you know?

(30:01) The ex that seems to never go away

(32:26) Once a cheater, always a cheater, right?

(37:07) Now this is a love triangle

(42:53) When the crazy ex is actually crazy

(50:11) Mourning your late boyfriend

(53:48) Icks

(59:16) Listener Review

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25. Unlike Burger King You Can’t Have It Your Way

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You can’t always get what you want in relationships, you have to learn to work together and compromise.  But what happens when one partner can’t remove their own self interests for the good of the relationship?  In this episode, Jon and Alex tackle questions about setting boundaries with your own family after marriage, a husbands kink not working for his wife, the mental toll being a teacher takes on a person, opening your marriage to same-sex partners only, and how to deal with your best friends new girlfriend who has some hoe tendencies.

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(00:00) Intro

(08:02) So Jon, What Are Your Thoughts On Alex Being The Social, Talkative Half Of The Marriage?

(10:03) When You Live In The Same Town As Your Family, You Must Have Boundaries

(12:47) Can Your Partners Extreme Kink Be Too Much For You To Handle?

(15:55) The Struggles Of Being A Teacher

(18:00) I Love Dogs, I Just Don’t Love My Girlfriends Dog

(21:27) Is It Possible To Remain Close To Your Exes Parents With Your New Boyfriend?

(26:11) An Open Marriage With A Twist

(30:23) Coparenting Is Hard Enough Without A Jealous Boyfriend

(33:27) Maintaining Friendships After Moving Out Of Town

(37:03) Everyone Understands Personal Space Except Mother In Laws

(42:53) My Best Friends Girlfriend Gives Off Serious Hoe Vibes

(46:12) Icks

(50:38) Listener Review

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